Aug 13, 2008

Soul Mate...

I’ve been tagged by Usha and Swathi to post about changes that happened in my life because of my Beloved Husband…

The Tag Rules: Write about the changes that have happened in your life, at least five, because of your significant other. Then Tag five others. If they don’t have a significant other, then any one person, who has caused the change. Please don’t leave the tag alone in the wild.

I have been a Romantic to the core in my Life so far. I as a teenager always dreamt of that "Knight in Shining Armour" sort of guy in a more Mordern Sense...Blue Jeans, White Shirt with Goggles - Tall, Handsome and with Rugged Manly looks (More influenced with this image probably because I was a Mills&Boon addict as a teenager...)..But as I grew up these thoughts took a back seat in my mind...but I was aspiring for greater heights in both education and career-wise and thankfully my parents never objected to these aspirations. They always assumed that being the Romantic I am...that I would easily fall in love and they didnot have to worry about searching a Groom for me....but to their suprise, many other things like Career, Social Service etc became more important factors to me than finding the Guy I have to spend the rest of my Life with...

So they no other choice but start the hunt for the right guy and I could not refuse them...But never in my wildest dreams did I think that I would actually fall madly in love with the guy they chose for me..It seems Life has always had different plans for me than the ones I Map out for myself...This is one I will NEVER EVER regret about...I will tell why soon...



I got married when I was 24 and Bhanu was 29 and at that age it is generally considered that girls and boys are mature enough to not let trivial matters effect their relations...whether it is true or not I dont know but for us it worked in our favour...we understood each other better than anybody else probably did...so whenever there were oppurtunities for small misunderstandings erupting, we knew where the cut-off line was and managed things in ways that would not effect our relation and before long I realised that my life could never have been complete without him... or cant even imagine a life without him....He is the true definition of a Soul Mate to me...

Now coming to the FIVE SIGNIFICANT CHANGES my husband got in me...By the way there are infinite number of changes in me because of him...but here goes the most significant ones...

NEVER HAVE EXPECTATIONS...His Belief is...Do what you can if someone asks anything of you or from you...but dont ever expect anything in return from them..If we have the means, resources and the capability we will do whatever we can...If we cant we can politely refuse but even if there is a slightest chance that we can do that then we will do...but whatever happens Never Ever expect something in return from the person/s...not even a Thank You...This belief has relieved me of my many mental agitations now...I do what I can and how I can...at home,at work and everwhere else...When I cant I tell I cant and life has been so smooth because of that...

GIVE YOUR BEST SHOT AT EVERYTHING...I have always been a hardworking girl but when I dont get the result I anticipated then I loose hopes and consider myself a failure...Though I revive myself and get back on track and work on different agendas...I would still have that lingering thought in the back of my mind that I had failures..But he has completely changed my mindset on this attitude of mine..He always motivates me to work my hardest and put in all my effort for the thing I am working for and reminds me of the knowledge I gain in the process and get the job done and forget about results. And because of this even though there is a negative result, I really dont get much fluttered because as far as I am considered it is a positive result for me as I have gained his Strength, Support and some workeable knowledge even from a failed project...But this positive attitude towards things gave me more Successes than Failures...:-)

DISASSOCIATE YOURSELF FROM UNPLEASANT THINGS...I used to get Depressed, Frustrated and Angry very very easily if things dont happen the way I Plan...I am an Organised Freak(Everything should be Neat, Clean in the way I keep or want to be seen or get done)..But over the past couple of years, this mentality of mine has changed a lot...Frustration and Depression are out of my dictionary..I am still working on reducing my Anger...though I am 1000 times better than I was 4 years back...I have learnt a technique from him wherein in scenarios where I would get angry..I remember some funny incident and forget the whole frustration part...and I laugh out loudly and get about doing the job happily which if I was my old self, I would have normally done in frustation, cussing and cursing everyone around.

DONT LET OTHERS GET TO YOU...Earlier I used to have a have a habit of brooding over issues I had with other people...I used to worry a lot about what impression other people had about me and my actions...and most of my waking hours would be spent thinking Oh maybe I can do that to impress them and do this to get a good name...But Thank GOD because of him, this disease has totally gone out of me...Now I really dont bother about how people think of me or perceive me to be...Nowadays I dont care about what impression I created...I do what is expected of me and just move on with life as though there is much attached to that issue. Nothing or Nobody talking bad about me can ever Flutter me...because I know the circumstances and hardship I took from myside to perform that particular task...

(This is very important to me because many of my friends and family members looked down on me when I started pursuing the Chef Course for our settlement...but developing Apathy about what people thought about me helped me to put in a lot hardwork and dedication towards my goal not forgetting the enomorous Support I received from Bhanu helped me get through with no distractions of any sorts.)

DONT BE HASTY and IMPULSIVE...This one quality I know was wrong in me from a long time and have always wanted to change it....but never succeeded in doing so...If I have a Urge to do something...like buy something I will...and forget the consequences attached...like cost and need etc...This nature of me actually back bitted me many times especially when it dealth with other people...I was too Frank and Transperant about my opinions and feelings about a person If I had issues with them...sometimes it lead to severing a very good relation I had with that person...But now I have learnt to control my emotions and think coolly before I Act on any issue...This has saved so many unneccessary unpleasant confrontations I would have had if not for the change in me... and ultimatley my changed nature has earned me back the friends I have long lost

The most important thing that has changed forever because of him is MY WHOLE PERSONA...I would not say this is a Change in my attitude or behaviour but I rather consider this as my Personality Change now...It is "Believe and Trust in Yourself....and the Sky is the Limit.." style of thinking...This personality change has brought wonders along...I never thought I can achieve anything because of the Negative Attitude I had lurking in me...But this personality change has made all my Achievements possible...and imbibed in me pure determination, dedication, a sense of responsibilityand finally a pride of achievement.

These Changes and Achievements I attribute every single of minute molecule of it to my My Soul Mate and Life Partner - MY HUSBAND...I truly love him for whatever he is and what he is done for me so far...changing my Persona and way of thinking has made me a Much Happier and Contended Person. I now have the belief that whatever hurdles and obstacles that come ur way we would be able to smoothly glide over them.


This is an ODE for the person I love with all my Heart...and has changed me for the better forever...

"To My Husband...Nanu...(As I call Him)

For all the thoughtful things you've done, to make our home a happy one that's filled with laughter,warmth and fun...I Love You....

For your sweet and understanding way, for the wonderful things you do and say. to bring joy into my life each day....I Love You...

Yes, for making all my Dreams come true, day in and day out - the whole year through and because I know You Love Me....I Love You....

For Loving me the way I am....I Love YOU and You are MY WORLD...

Forever...Your Wife...Amu"

This Tag has been an insight into my soul for me as much as much it would be to the readers of my Blog...and I heartfully thank Swathi and Usha for tagging me with this...An introspection of my Soul helped me to realise how many Changes for the Better, My Husband has instigated in me and How Much I Love My SOULMATE....MY HUSBAND...

I am not a great Blogger...nor know many Blogging Greats here...so from the limited Bloggers I visit...I wanted to tag Swetha and Poornima...who are both my very Good Friends and a Great Inspiration to me.

Thank You all for reading through a rather lengthy post....

So until next time...Keep Smiling Always...:-)

9 comments:

Ramya said...

Amu nice write up.Your lovable Husband may shed into tears if he reads this post.

Amu... said...

Thanks Ramya :-)

uvrao said...

nice one amu.. u should show this to bhanu...he will be touched..

Amu... said...

Thanks a lot Usha...Thanks for Tagging me...

I hope he will be touched...saw him reading it today...he is a slow reader...so will wait for his reaction...generally it will be a BIG SMILE...that lights up his face...and i love watching him like that...so waiting...:-)

Swathi said...

Hey nice write up Amu...Bhanu garu might be on top of the world after reading this! Ask him for a treat :)

Deepa said...

every word so perfectly framed & Natural 4m ur heart..all d best, May God bless U

Praneetha Raghava said...

Nice write up Amu. Chala baga rasavu. I am sure Bhanu garu baga emotional ayyi vuntaru. As usual, idi kooda late gane choosanu. But very good wtite up. keep it up.

Amu... said...

@Swati...
Thank You for Tagging me...if not I would have never thought about such stuff at all...Treataaa...lets see...:-D

@Deepa...
Thank You so much...Thats really encouraging...and Thank You for your Good Wishes...

@Praneetha...
Better Late than Never ani antaru...so late ayina parvaledu...and Thank You so Much...yeah Bhanu liked it...I got the Prized smile and Tight Hug...:-)

YOSEE said...

You are blessed to have a husband like this one. A great teacher he seems to be ! Wish you both all the very best in life.